I know this can feel weird and not great. You are still well loved, and a charming person (so it seems from our brief Twitter interactions). You and your new family are delights and deserve all the love and assurances you can offer. Stay well.
I think it's a mistake to imagine that there are people you would give it to who could benefit either now or later. The people you will save later are simply different people from the ones you would save now if you donated now. Both sets of people would prefer to be saved, but you're only going to save one set. And it's not at all obvious which set of people is bigger. But ultimately, you don't owe anyone charity. The point of EA is that when you do do things for strangers, you do things that actually help those strangers. No more virtue signaling with donations to ineffective charities after you join EA! But how much of yourself you give to strangers, that is up to you, there isn't a right or wrong answer. So if donating nothing now and 20% next year is what works with your life, then do that. It's fine.
I know this can feel weird and not great. You are still well loved, and a charming person (so it seems from our brief Twitter interactions). You and your new family are delights and deserve all the love and assurances you can offer. Stay well.
I think it's a mistake to imagine that there are people you would give it to who could benefit either now or later. The people you will save later are simply different people from the ones you would save now if you donated now. Both sets of people would prefer to be saved, but you're only going to save one set. And it's not at all obvious which set of people is bigger. But ultimately, you don't owe anyone charity. The point of EA is that when you do do things for strangers, you do things that actually help those strangers. No more virtue signaling with donations to ineffective charities after you join EA! But how much of yourself you give to strangers, that is up to you, there isn't a right or wrong answer. So if donating nothing now and 20% next year is what works with your life, then do that. It's fine.